The Value of Witness

“It’s not who I am underneath, but what I do that defines me.”

Sixty girls, all seniors in high school, were asked this question: Would you like it if the people in your life who loved you stopped showing you signs of love and, instead, asked you to just trust that they loved you? Not one of the girls said they would like this. In fact all of them said they would hate it. They all insisted they wanted and needed signs and acts of love.

This has nothing to do with insecurity or lack of trust. It has everything to do with the nature of beliefs and values. A person is not kind or honest because he or she claims to be kind or honest. He or she must act in a kind and honest way. People are not loving because they make a claim to be loving. These people must perform acts of love. Love, kindness or any value or belief we want to possess must be witnessed.

Be mindful this month of witnessing to yourself and others any belief or value you claim to be important to you and by which you would like to be defined.